Remember, image stabilization is very difficult to maintain when utilizing the telephoto to its' greatest length to crush the depth of field. So, you'll have to keep most of the shots on a pod, or on a steadicam with an operator who drinks decaf.
There are other tricks, like using a "softscreen", which essentially is nothing more than a slightly distorted piece of plastic that is placed directly behind a subject and framed accordingly by camera to simulate a shallow depth of field, but the people who sell it charge too much, I'm not sure where they get the material or if they make it themselves. It's worth looking into though, I believe Michel Gondry used it in Eternal Sunshine...
I'm not aware of an economical and realistic post process that allows you simulate a shallow depth of field, Discreet probably has something, but again, it's not economical. 8)